We will hear and say ‘Happy New Year’ frequently at this time of year – but rarely do we consider what it really means to us, and also the people to whom we say it.
We are all unique individuals with our very own unique needs and desires; and many of us are united in our quest for the similar thing – to feel Happy New Year. Many of us are striving for this particular state of ‘happiness’; but lots of people are looking in the wrong spot for it – and settling for a temporary mood-enhancer as alcohol, drugs, a brand new relationship, or new possessions.
Magazines are now packed with ‘New Year New You’ advice from so-called experts – the majority of which is just plain good sense! Nobody else is definitely the expert on you! Only you know – or want to pin-down – what brings you personal happiness. One person’s happiness is an additional person’s burden.
Should you now consider what actually brings people happiness it might range from finding shelter and food; to having a make-over/fake-tan/fake-nails etc., buying new ‘toys/gadgets’, right right through to showing love, care and compassion to others. As broad a spectrum as is also seen in general society.
Happiness for you personally depends upon your very own level of personal and spiritual awareness, along with your capacity to create happiness as a state of mind that you simply can return to anytime – despite life’s relentless disappointments and challenges.
It is far from enough to easily ‘think’ or ‘imagine’ yourself for being happy – you can’t fool yourself that easily!
What the majority of us don’t realise is that we have now two mind-sets about everything in life, and those two minds can be at odds with each other. This conflict can include the amounts of happiness we have been ‘allowed’ to discover.
Our conscious/rational/observing mind can desire and seek greater happiness; however, if our sub-conscious mind doesn’t believe that we deserve it, or we would reap the benefits of it – this just isn’t going to come our way. Our outer lives are only ever a reflection of our own inner and deeper sub-conscious belief system. Self-help books and talking therapies tend not to access or change these deeper ‘Script’ beliefs.
Being around happy, optimistic, warm and friendly people positively affects us too – along with the contrary. This is called ‘Emotional Contagion’ – which is worth reflecting upon what ‘mood’ or ‘energy’ we ourselves give away that consequently affects those around us.
We have now neurons within our brains called Mirror Neurons which can create in us the emotion that we are witnessing outside us. For example if we see someone stub their toe or trap their finger, our company is instinctively designed to feel something similar. This connection goes past mere ’empathy’, or of recalling personal memories of comparable things having happened to us before. We are significantly afflicted with being around Merry Christmas Messages, whose emotions we then ‘mirror’ in ourselves.
Don’t however be fooled with a ‘happy mask’ that somebody may wear; which is a false-self they present to the world as being an try to hide their real feelings and needs. This may well happen to be set up in childhood if it was encouraged and expected which they ‘put-on-a-happy face’ for your family’s sake; and to stuff down their real feelings like anger, resentment, disappointment, fear, sadness and despair – which was real, but ‘unacceptable’ by the family/care-giver.
Many people are so used to wearing a mask they cannot imagine a life without it, or how to take it off! Their eyes will usually provide the game away as to their underlying feelings, as will an unguarded moment and comment, if someone else is sensitive enough to notice these ‘slips’.
We all have a ‘base-line’ degree of happiness at any stage within our lives – which can be formed from your past experiences and the meaning we gave to them; and of course the results these have had upon our sub-conscious mind and the ‘program’ we are running.
This base-line represents only 40% of the full quantity of happiness we are capable of experiencing on the present time. An additional 10% can come from the external ‘lucky’ events including the lottery win; or perhaps a big new purchase; or kkywim cosmetic surgery etc. These ‘highs’ are unfortunately only temporary and we soon come back to our base level once again.
The fantastic news though is the fact that remaining 40% of happiness open to you – comes from YOU! This is scientifically validated and forms a central part of Positive Psychology.
You can find 12 methods for facilitating more happiness by the own actions and thoughts, and through the releasing your own blockages. Many of these ways include figuring out how to create a more optimistic and focused approach to life; to maintain your healthy mind and spirit, and allowing gratitude and forgiveness to you. These sound simple but in fact are profound and life-changing. Enhancing your overall, and sustained, happiness positively effects every cell in your body and consequently your genetic expression (Epi-genetics); and thus your lifespan.
Deeper and sustained Happiness equates to a calmness in the mind… observing what is, and never forcing change… reflecting, surrendering and allowing; instead of worrying, over-thinking and mind-chatter. To find out the Happy New Year Images in every single tiny moment as opposed to only focusing in front of the present time; or dwelling in the unchangeable past. The only real time you actually have is it moment and the next breath. Take full advantage of these whilst you still need them.